Years later we still hide behind a facade as we don't want friends to worry

Yes Men do Cry

Many will relate to my journey of grieving and yes many may still be struggling or trying to cope. We do put on facade even years later as we don’t want you to have to worry. There is more to grieving than it just being a word that we think we understand. Grieving a step into the unknown.

At one time I didn’t think I would ever be able to laugh, smile or love again. But I did find my way back although it was a rough road. I now laugh and smile and yes I can love again.

The thing that stands out for me is that all we are left with are memories. The good ones we can recall any time the unpleasant ones we can throw up on the top shelf of the closet and let them accumulate dust.

GRIEVING DOES NOT MEAN FORGETTING. I’VE REMARRIED BUT I NEVER FORGET MY 25 YEARS WITH LOIS, OR THE ELEVEN WEEK JOURNEY WE WENT THROUGH FROM DIAGNOSIS TO DEATH. SHE IS STILL WITH ME TODAY THROUGH MY MEMORIES.

Even if I wanted to forget / years later.

For example - a car pulled up beside me at a stop light, and the woman pulled out her lip stick, and put it on. This is exactly what Lois used to do - and bam, the memories are triggered and you just smile and shake your head still trying to understand what life is all about. The light turns green, you put your mind into drive and you move on.

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About the Author

Wrote " Yes Men Do Cry" . The journal is a documentation of how I coped with the loss of Lois (Booby), my wife of twenty-five years, on October 18, 2000. I wrote it over a period of three years from November 2000 to October 2003, at first daily and, as time progressed, weekly, then monthly. It is a personal journey of the grieving process I went through, It is how I felt, how I survived. There is no official ending as one does move on and accepts what is happening on their own terms. Everything written just flowed, including forty-eight poems. 99% is unedited I NEVER INTENDED IT TO BE PUBLISHED. If the Journal helps one person male or female so that they do not feel so alone, then publishing it will have been a success Yes, there are many books on grieving for women, but few for men. There are many great counseling groups out there, BUT Because of the macho man syndrome, men appear to prefer grieving in the privacy of their own home. As you will see, we are far stronger as individuals than we realize. Your mind can play great games. Positivity does conquer NEGATIVITY. The Journal is available at Amazon.

I'm Grieving, Now What?

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