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Terrible Swift Tongue

I cannot be the only person who read, with something of a sinking heart, the undeniably likable letter defending her mother that 18-year-old Sophia Chua-Rubenfeld published last month in The New York Post.

Her mother, for anyone who has sworn off media for all these weeks of coverage, is Amy Chua, the author of “Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother,” a hair-­raising child-rearing memoir that has struck fury, envy or doubt in the hearts of tens of thousands of parents across the country — a high percentage of whom have been moved to express their precise reactions in blog posts and articles and essays and online comments since an excerpt of the book first appeared in The Wall Street Journal in early January.

So many parenting memoirs capture the various ways the authors’ children have taken them to hell and back. Refreshingly, and perhaps uniquely, Chua instead catalogs the various ways she tortured her two young daughters, all in the name of Chinese tradition and the goal of reaching Carnegie Hall (or at least the Juilliard precollege program).

Once primarily known for her work as a professor at Yale Law School and for studies on empire and ethnicity, Chua now seems destined to go to her grave identified as the Tiger Mother, a woman whose memoir sarcastically savages a host of American values, all the while relying on that quintessentially American format, the family tell-all.

Here is a book to thrill any parent who has felt moments of guilt about a harsh word or a carelessly flung insult. On virtually every page, that parent can cringe in dismay (and luxuriate in a safe sense of superiority), as Chua exposes her own outrageous tactics: there are the by now notorious threats to burn one young daughter’s stuffed animals if she could not master a certain piece of piano music, or to give away, piece by piece, the furniture in her other daughter’s dollhouse on grounds of nonperfection. When the younger girl, Lulu, turned 13 and started resisting in force, her mother told her, “I was thinking of adopting a third child from China, one who would practice when I told her to, and maybe even play the cello in addition to the violin and piano.”

In the case of Chua’s older daughter, those kinds of tactics got results: as a teenager, Sophia was a first-prize winner in an international competition that gave her the opportunity to play Carnegie Hall. But so what? Surely that enviable prize came at the cost of a healthy relationship . . . didn’t it? The last thing the reader wants to hear is that Chua-Rubenfeld, as she wrote in that charming letter to her mother that ran in The Post, is “glad you and Daddy raised me the way you did.”

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There is something of a narrative formula in Chua’s book, the predictable eventual enlightenment about the things that count, insights gleaned when her own sister falls gravely ill and her younger daughter rebels with tell-tale troubling signs like chopping off her hair and flinging a glass to the ground in rage, in public no less. In fact, Chua does not seem so much to learn a lesson as simply to concede defeat in exhaustion. But she also seems to have perfected a fresher kind of formula, one we might expect to see replicated in the future: memoirs about parenting techniques that are just appalling enough to allow the reader to revel in self-righteousness, but tempered with insights just wise enough, and timely enough, that the reader has reason to refrain from chucking the book across the room. (Imagine this book proposal: the extremes one mother pursued in a misguided effort to instill healthy eating habits in her children.)

Many an indulgent, progressive parent would be likely to pause and reflect on the philosophy (as opposed to the execution of it) that Chua reiterates in various ways — that Chinese parents “assume strength, not fragility” in their children, and therefore demand more of them, setting higher standards, assuming they can handle more pressure in the name of high performance, or at least good behavior. In this regard, Chua is like some high-steroid version of Wendy Mogel, who wrote “The Blessing of a Skinned Knee,” a very different book that struck a chord by advocating that parents indulge less, and expect more.

If Mogel worried ultimately about children’s well-being, Chua, predictably, touches on anxieties that take the stakes much higher, playing on fears on a global scale: “I’m telling you this country is going to go straight downhill!” she quotes herself telling her daughters, with a rare bit of italics in case anyone missed the bigger point. She brings to that comment all the authority of a law professor who has made a specialty of writing on the decline of superpowers.

Having read the Wall Street Journal excerpt, and decided, like everyone else, that Chua was intimidating, impressive and Must Be Stopped, I sincerely hoped the book would be a bore, full of niggly detail about rehearsals, competitions and her ancestral origins. Sadly, I must inform you that “Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother” is entertaining, bracingly honest and, yes, thought-provoking. Many parents who revile Chua’s conduct are probably, nonetheless, seriously considering Suzuki for the first time.

The rare times Chua attempts to write about anything other than her extreme parenting, however, her digressions fail to impress. Even an effort to analyze Debussy’s affection for the Indonesian instrument the gamelan turns into an excuse — however convoluted — for her to assure us that her husband dated no Asian women before her.

The only truly transporting writing in the book belongs to Sophia Chua-­Rubenfeld, whose essay about performing “Juliet as a Young Girl,” from Sergei Prokofiev’s “Romeo and Juliet,” Chua wisely includes. “An old mirror betrayed the contrast between my chalk-white face and my dark gown, and I wondered how many other musicians had stared into that same glass,” Chua-Rubenfeld writes of her time backstage at Carnegie Hall. Of the music, she tells us, “The sweet, repetitive murmuring that accompanied Juliet was her nurse; the boisterous chords were Romeo’s teasing friends. So much of me was manifested in this piece, in one way or another.” She sat down to perform: “I said good-bye to Romeo and Juliet, then released them into the darkness.”

More than Chua’s televised qualifiers, more than Chua-Rubenfeld’s published letter, the essay makes one thing clear: Whatever Amy Chua stole from that daughter’s childhood, she somehow left her soul intact.

BATTLE HYMN OF THE TIGER MOTHER

By Amy Chua

Illustrated. 237 pp. The Penguin Press. $25.95.

Susan Dominus is a staff writer for The Times Magazine.

A version of this article appears in print on  , Page 7 of the Sunday Book Review with the headline: Terrible Swift Tongue. Order Reprints | Today’s Paper | Subscribe

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